Am I fully stepping into my new identity?
Hmmm, if I’m honest with myself probably not yet, but in reference to a Collette Baron-Reid oracle deck, I’m in ‘Between two worlds’. I’m in a transition. I know I definitely have NOT been fully owning it, but that is why I’m here today writing this blog post because I’m changing this. I’m shifting. I’m choosing to own it. I have made the decision to own it!
I’ve been asking myself ‘why is this transition so hard?’ This stepping into a new identity has come up more than once with my coach Renee and below are some of the major themes repeating themselves….
- If I dive in deeper, guilt has come up multiple times and this idea that if I focus on me and my growth and don’t feel guilty about it then I’m a bad person and I don’t care about others feelings. Of course this isn’t true and it is quite the opposite. I care almost too much about everyone.
- Fear of being seen, owning my quirkiness and being rejected too, but what I have ultimately come to realise lately is that no one can actually reject me, but me.
- I feel as though I’m letting myself and others around me down because I ‘should’ be more successful by now, particularly as an artist and contemporary jeweller, so how can I be thinking about doing or learning something else.
- The fact that the perceived pressure of making money in my business seems worse for me than actually stepping into who I desire to become, but the fact is that money is only energy.
These have all been themes that have had a strong hold over me, but as I become more aware of who I truly am on a Soul level and own it, I trust that each little right action will bring me closer and closer to what I desire and who I want to be.
Yes, trust is another theme that has been popping up for me recently. Trusting that I am already doing everything that is correct for me to fully step into my new identity, trusting that if I keep doing my bit, then the Universe will do her thing and meet me half way. Keep trusting!
So, let’s just say if I were fully owning my new identity, I would be sending an email every week or every fortnight, I would post consistently, create offerings that support others in their journey, make art, create jewellery and share my experiences and personal development journey and impact the right people! It would be a no brainer and it really is a no brainer! After listening to Kasia Burke (spiritual mentor) this evening doing a Facebook Live, she reiterated what I’ve heard many times before “It wouldn’t be about figuring out our Ideal Client Avatar because the Universe will bring the right people to us if and when we step into who we really are”. We still need to take action, write the email, contact the person, if it is correct for us, but from a place of aligned action and something that the Human Design System has continually taught me in the past year, is to always check in with my decision making authority and strategy.
I know for me it has been important to embody the feminine (receiving) and the masculine (action, doing) together. Sometimes I can be too much in one energy than another and it can be stifling. Awareness is definitely the key, as in most areas of life.
So what the fuck am I really talking about….you may be thinking what is this chick really on about!
A few weeks back I felt so low and I mean low. The energy was terrible and I couldn’t shake it. I was trying so hard to get motivated and make my art and create jewellery, but it just was NOT happening. I didn’t want to do it! I was doing lots of procrastinating, but then I remembered in one of our Mastermind sessions our coaches Dan and Renee had brought up that there is always a reason for procrastination and I knew there was something else to the way I was feeling.
I brought up my extremely low mood with Renee in our 1-1 coaching session a day or so later and we explored what it was really about. I was stepping into a new identity. I am stepping into a new identity. I was grieving my old identity and the shift that was occurring. I am now shifting from the exhausted, overwhelmed mum and wife who never had time for her jewellery making and art or quality time with her family, always feeling bitter and annoyed at how things are going …… to fully owning and stepping into being a coach, mentor and guide who always spends quality time with her family and loved ones, takes care of herself and knows she is worthy of so much love and joy, makes lots of money doing what she loves, helping people align with their joy and doing what they love and making kick ass jewellery that helps people anchor into their highest expressive self.
I realise now that this is everything; taking aligned inspired action to put yourself out there and let people know energetically and physically what you’re about.
I am still making jewellery, but I’m now stepping into who I am at my core. I’m owning the spiritual being I am, my connection to the Universe, my connection to my deep creative and soulful self. I’m stepping into the entrepreneur that I am, the mentor, the coach, the guide, and the contemporary jeweller and visual artist. I am all of this and more. My identity is changing and it will change again.
I don’t only make jewellery as an object of beauty (although this is wonderful too), but I create pieces of art as an anchor, an anchor to connect you to your emotions, your memories, who you desire to be, to anchor you in your creative power, highest expressive self and your Soul. This is why I am so passionate about jewellery as wearable art because there is so much meaning behind the pieces, so many layers. The intention is powerful!
My personal development journey has been a long one, like many of us. I first discovered how powerful our thoughts and energy are over 15 years ago and I started to read and listen to as much as I could about these topics. I also became aware recently that this was when I manifested meeting my now husband and some of my best life long friends.
A few years ago I enrolled in Marie Forleo’s BSchool, joined the Female Entrepreneur Association’s Members Club and became a Desire Map Facilitator through Danielle LaPorte. I did all of this to learn all I could about online business, heart-centred and soulful entrepreneurship, but especially to support myself and others to align with their highest selves and live the life they desired. I became a member of Gabrielle Bernstein’s Miracle Membership to deepen my spiritual practice and connection. I joined a year long Creative Exchange and started focusing on my creative practice more and believing I am an Artist. I found the confidence to start holding Jewellery Making for the Soul workshops because I knew it was about more than jewellery as a product for me, but it was about connection to the divine and creative expression from the Soul. I appreciate all of the experience gained; I appreciate my visual arts degree and my event management diploma, my whole working career and the experience gained through life’s highs and lows. Nothing is wasted and I’m learning now that I don’t have to regret any of it.
It wasn’t actually until August 2020 though, after investing in myself and working 1-1 with coaches and discovering Human Design that I really began to understand that the people you surround yourself with can make such a huge impact on what you want to achieve and who you want to be in your life. It is a continual journey becoming who you want to be, so why not start as soon as you can. Find your tribe, join a membership, find a mastermind or get a coach. You won’t regret it.
I love personal development and growth. I love spirituality and soulful, heart-centred business. I love jewellery, I love art and design. I love it all and I’m owning it all! I love the mind. I love spirit. I love how our bodies and intuition can tell us so much if we are willing to become aware and really listen. I love Human Design and its’ intricacies and depth and the way it reads like your Soul’s roadmap. I’m continuously learning so much everyday, even when I forget this sometimes and I don’t take notice of what I already know, all the little wins and accomplishments along the way, or when I get caught up comparing myself to others.
So, if you want to change something in your life, surround yourself with more of those people doing what you want to be doing or even being who you want to be. It is truly eye opening! Don’t take any little experience for granted!
Love to you all, beautiful Souls! xx
"It's the little moments that make life big!" - Kobi Yamada
2019 has been such a big, crazy, inspiring year for me, but from the outside looking in, I haven’t achieved huge milestones. However I know there has been so much learning creatively and business wise going on. At times it has been a challenge to stay aligned with the highest version of myself and still maintain some kind of balance between creativity, work, family and personal life. Deep down I could feel something within me shifting and I felt like it was the right time to gain some creative momentum.
Sometime in February or March this year I started seeing social media posts about BSchool by Marie Forleo again and this time I knew I would enroll. She has been a huge inspiration to me for quite some time and I often binge watch her You Tube Videos and interviews with other awesome entrepreneurs. I didn’t know how or whether I could really justify the expense of the online marketing and business school, but that I was going to make it happen!
Last year I remember researching reviews and seeing some not so positive comments about the course and mentioning that I wanted to enroll to my husband. He was not very receptive to the idea or the cost either. I must have had a fair bit of resistance on my path and didn’t feel like it was the right time, so I put the dream aside.
This year however, I didn’t even offer it up as a choice, rather I mentioned it (with complete excitement and alignment) as though I had already made up my mind and I was doing it! This was it!! Low and behold, he was completely on board. Funny how a change in our own energy can be the catalyst for cooperation from other people and attracting what we want!
Creating my Vision
Take a peek inside my Wonderworld
Rewind to the beginning of the year; I made a big beautiful vision board with all of my personal dreams and desires. I put focus on the feelings and the energy that each dream would encompass rather than the specific manifestations (just like all of the self development texts talk about). Ultimately, this is what we are all striving for in the end; that feeling; the emotion! Included on my board was an interview with Marie Forleo and Danielle LaPorte (another of my inspirational mentors). I would look at it every morning (still do) and feel my dreams manifesting, even if I didn’t know how they would show up. Vision boards aren’t magic, manifestation isn’t magic (well I guess it depends on your perspective), but I believe it’s all about the intention and the focus that can determine our journey.
Fast forward a few months and I have completed the live BSchool 8 week course and finished all of the modules. I am still working through implementing everything I have learnt and watching the extra Bonus content. There is so much value in the course (some people say it’s been more valuable than their completed MBA) and I have access for life, so I am just taking my time and going with the flow.
The interesting thing is, I enrolled in BSchool through Danielle LaPorte (remember the interview on my vision board), having no idea I would enroll through her affiliate link. I discovered Danielle LaPorte a few years ago when I was listening to an ‘Inspiration Bomb’ audio by Big Hearted Business founded by Claire Bowditch (fellow Aussie Gal). I was instantly inspired by her words and energy and went out to buy both of her books The Fire Starter Sessions and The Desire Map. I completely fell in love with her work!
Now I am excited to say I have very recently become a Desire Map and Fire Starter Sessions Facilitator and I continue to learn so many wonderful personal development and spiritual tools that compliment my current work from a soulful and heart centred place as a Visual Artist and Contemporary Jeweller. Keep an eye out for my Desire Map Workshops coming soon! I can’t wait to share them with you!
I just keep on learning new things every day with my business and it keeps me inspired constantly. Some days I make absolutely no progress (family and life commitments always come first) and yet my mind wont stop racing with ideas. I just keep taking little baby steps forward and making whatever progress I can. ‘Progress over perfection’ – Marie Forleo
Let me know in the comments below about the things, people or projects you are inspired by at the moment! I would love to get to know you all!!
It is official, the first term school holidays are over and we are back into the swing of things. Well, not sure that we are exactly back into the swing of things, but we have gotten to school on time for the first week and without any hiccups ! Yay for Mum!
Without sounding too miserable, it has been one tiresome break. We were all sick for the entire school holidays, barr my husband Mark who had the flu shot early enough to escape the wrath. I even got my flu shot this year, but it seemed it was too late and unfortunately it got a strong hold of me. Mark was a saviour though, looking after all of us and doing what he could to keep us all comfortable.
Anyway, I felt pretty sorry for myself and constantly needed to use my toolbox of self help strategies to stay remotely sane. They definitely helped me to move through those feelings in a more compassionate way.
Of course, as we all do when we have a long planned break, I had some big creative and productive plans that unfortunately were not even started, let alone accomplished. I began to feel even more behind and that overwhelmed feeling started to creep in with the list of looming housework, creative projects and errands unfinished.
The last Friday of the school holidays however, after drawing with crayons on the floor with my six year old and eighteen month old, I was reminded of one of the simplest tools that we can all connect with to bring us back to a place of joy and creative flow; childlike wonder!
I believe that this is one of the most important tools in bringing us back to a place of joy and creative expression, if not the most important!
Creativity has always been such a big part of my life since I was a little girl, but it doesn’t always come easily and getting ‘in the flow’ isn’t a simple process for me, even more so now that I am a parent!
Now that everyone was feeling on the mend, watching these two playing together so freely and naturally throughout the day made me realise that I needed to stop with the frustration……….. that I was actually being offered an opportunity, a chance to learn a whole lot more from them, a lesson on life.
After this profound reminder, I have put together a short list of 11 ideas you might like to explore to connect with your inner child and re-discover your childlike wonder and creative self once more. These don’t need to be done with children ( but this is always super fun too) and it probably isn’t any new information that you haven’t heard before, but sometimes we block or resist the chance to have a bit of fun and get in a place of alignment. I know I sure do! So go get curious and creative!
1. Look through the eyes of a child
We can all benefit from being more playful in our interactions and have a much more light hearted approach to life. Kids love discovering new things ALL. THE. TIME! Touching, smelling, putting things in their mouths (not saying you have to do this, although if it’s a delicious piece of chocolate, go right ahead!) Children are constanty learning every single moment and they do it with so much enthusiasm and energy.
My son can see so much potential in a simple cushion; it becomes a cubby, a mountain landscape or the perfect tool for a pillow fight. If we can just alter our perspective slightly, we can really see the world with curious eyes and inspiration can be found at every turn. Let’s not take life too seriously, have fun, forgive and let go of judgement.
2. Get out the lego
Have you ever just sat and built a lego castle or your dream lego garden landscape? Probably not, am I right? Particularly not since you were ten at least, but what better way to unblock those creative ideas, encourage problem solving, imagination or even just to get present and focus on an activity with no other purpose than to have fun and live in the moment.
When I am feeling really irritated and my son Elijah asks me to sit down and play with him, my first response can sometimes be one of ‘I don’t have time’ or ‘I have to do the housework’, but then I sit and watch him play and follow his lead and instantly I feel like this completely makes sense. He understands what life is all about!
3. Be completely present
Children tend to do this naturally because they are so deeply focussed on their activity. They live in and for this moment and they seem to acheive flow with such ease. There is no pressure of time and worrying about what someone else might think of what they are doing.
As adults, we too can achieve this through simple meditation; breathing exercises, focussing on a repetative sound or noticing the sensation of the warm water from a shower. Eckhart Tolle, author of ‘The Power of Now’ writes a lot about this in his book and offers some fantastic opportunities in daily activities like washing the dishes and doing the laundry, even walking up and down the stairs. Be completely focussed on the task at hand and you will start to find yourself becoming less frustrated doing them because you are no longer noticing how long it’s taking and hurrying to the end.
4. Get outside
Get out in nature. Pick some flowers. Roll around in some leaves and feel the crunch under your feet. Play with some twigs. There is so much potential in a simple stick. Build a bee hotel. Make mud pies. Get your hands dirty.
Get moving. Go for a walk. Go to the playground. Jump on the trampoline. Not only is exercise good for your psychological and physical health, it really gives you such a natural high! Spiritual author Gabrielle Bernstein and life strategist Tony Robbins both use a mini trampoline to get energy flowing. I love to get up on our boys big 14ft trampoline and have a bounce. Nothing beats the feeling!
5. Lose the perfection
Give things a go and stop being so hard on yourself! I too, need to constantly take my own advice. This blog and my business is a perfect example of this. Marie Forleo, host of Marie TV, entrepreneur and philanthropist says “progress over perfection”. Don’t hold back from creating something because of your fear of failure and idea of perfection. If you don’t at least try, you will never know for sure and you can always put it down to experience. Ask yourself this. “What have I learnt or gained from this experience?” Even if it isn’t exactly what you set out to achieve in the beginning.
6. Draw anything
Elijah is so great at getting out the pencils and just getting in the flow. Sometimes he will have a clear idea of what he wants to draw and other times he just free draws and then turns it into something as he goes. He constantly inspires me to just create.
In our foundation year studying Visual Arts, we completed ’10 Steps’ a mapping type activity, where we had to take ten steps in our surroundings and record the interpretation of what we saw at each step. We were asked to use charcoals, no colour and we had to think creatively in the way we utilised shapes, lines and shading to complete the project. Why not give something like this a go and have some fun. Don’t think too hard, just get drawing!
7. Make up a game
When my brothers and I were younger, we used to make up games all the time! I remember one game we used to play outside was a version of chasy. We would find whatever transportation we could; bikes, skateboards etc. The ground was burning lava and we had to catch each other without our feet touching the ground. We could use other household items like brooms or rakes to walk on the ground too. What a strange, but interesting game to come up with, but it provided us with hours of entertainment.
8. Read a childrens story
There is so much inspiration to be found in children’s books and of course they are usually written by adults who seem to know how to connect with their childlike essence. Perfect inspiration! Maybe you could even give writing or illustrating your own children’s book a go, or do this activity with your kids. You could even create a comic book or a short story.
Sometimes I find when I watch an animated movie because Elijah wants to watch it, I end up watching the whole film to the end and he has already gone to play with something else. These films often have deeper messages and meaning than you may think. Go watch Kungfu Panda and you will see what I mean.
9. Build a cubby
Elijah loves to build a cubby out of cushions between the coffee table and the lounge. I bet you remember how much fun it was to build a fort out of sheets when you were little! Get involved with your kids next time they are building their little hideaway, that’s if they let you in on the fun!
10. Play a sport indoors
Obviously this needs to be done with a bit more thought and safety than playing outside, but it is actually super easy and fun!
Most nights my boys start a game of indoor something or another. At the moment, it is indoor hockey, golf and soccer. My eighteen month old Oliver is obsessed with ball sports right now and and Elijah never wants to miss out on a super energising game, so is always happy to join in too!
You don’t have to be limited by your equipment or by the weather either. A kitchen utensil is great as a kid size golf club. Use whatever you have on hand!
11. Treat every day as NEW!
Have you noticed how children seem to have a fight with their sibling and then they become best friends again the next day. Every day is new to them and every day holds the possibility of something magnificant. Most haven’t yet been tainted by life and the crazy drama yet to come, but what have we got to lose if we just pretend, even just for a small moment, that we are a child once again; or maybe if we just connect with our sense of wonder every so often!